If you need some motivation to kickstart your New Year’s resolutions, our chat with Lillian Ahenkan aka FlexMami will provide the goods.
At only 25 years old, she’s one very accomplished individual. She’s a DJ, podcaster, model, influencer TV presenter, and author. On top of all these things, Lillian’s got some pretty cool takes on life, relationships, and business.
Keen to hear how she fits it all in? Read on for our chat about style, millennial entrepreneurship and how to trade in small talk for deeper, more meaningful conversations.
Name Lillian Ahenkan, popularly known as FlexMami
Occupation DJ, TV presenter, podcaster, author, model, influencer, professional opinion haver, owner of ReFlex (the critical thinking card game)
Hey Lillian. If you had to pick five words to describe yourself, what would they be?
Bold, temperamental, do-er, human, extra.
Tell us about what’s most important in your life?
Making sure I’m doing things that spark big enjoyment. It takes very little for me to be ungrateful of how amazing it is to be alive. Chasing leisure (while working hard) reminds me of that.
And what’s the most unique thing about you?
I don’t really think any individual thing about me is unique. Statistically speaking, there could be plenty of people who started their career as a DJ and quickly bulldozed their way into being an entertainment personality with their foot in every millennial entrepreneurship pie possible. But it’s the combination of the above – plus my personality, lived experience and perspective – that makes me unique.
How’s 2020 kicked off for you? What are you working on at the moment?
Manufacturing my critical thinking card game, ReFlex. Writing a book with Pantera Press which will be published in Jan 2021. And also saving to buy a house.
You're a DJ, you have a podcast, you’re also a TV presenter and an author. How do you juggle it all? Do you have any tips for multitasking like a boss?
There’s no easy way to do too much. My first bit of advice is to quickly figure out how much you can afford to mentally, physically and spiritually exhaust yourself and then make sure you don’t. If you’re too far down the capitalist rabbit hole of working hard to a fault, then my biggest tip is to learn how to set boundaries. If your time is finite, then it’s so important to learn how to protect that. For some, it’s only doing emails in the morning and for others, it’s not accepting new work until current work is finished. If you do happen to have some spare time, how do you like to spend it? Reddit myself to sleep, watch YouTube, play with airdrying clay and attempt to DIY things I can’t afford to buy.
Can you describe your fashion style?
A loud, bold, approachable business maven who moonlights as a muse for only the most inspired artists.
*And what about advice for those trying to figure out their personal style? *
Start by wearing what you actually like. Not what’s appropriate. Not what suits your figure. Not what everyone else is wearing.
Tell us about your favourite pair of shoes.
A pair of sky blue satin ’70s-inspired platform mules. They combine my favourite things: colour, comfort, and attention.
What does crèmm’s motto, ‘Own You’ mean to you?
Do what you do and do it well. Be who you are and be it well.
And have you ever personally felt pressure to follow the crowd or blend in?
Absolutely. I don’t think I’ll ever overcome it. So long as society continues to prioritize and commodify everything about being human, there’ll always be some pressure to stick to the status quo.
What are you most passionate about?
Encouraging people to trade in small talk for meaningful, potentially taboo conversation. The more we dodge hard chats the more we create unnecessary chasms between each other’s understanding of one another.
If you could tell a stranger one thing about yourself, what would it be?
My name. If I only have one thing to say, I’m not going to stress myself out by making it profound. Hopefully, there’ll be enough warmth in that interaction that they’ll want to get to know me further.
And if you could change one thing in the world, what would it be?
Our ability to appreciate and understand lived experiences outside of our own. So many believe that things aren’t possible because they haven’t seen, felt or touched it. It’s nonsensical.
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever been given?
My mum told me never to do a job 50 percent of the way as if someone was going to come and finish the rest. If you’re going to start something, finish it properly.
What’s one piece of advice you’d like to give to other women?
Someone is always going to view you and your work differently because you’re a woman. Keep working.
What are you most proud of and why?
My life. I’m slowly but surely building a life that mirrors my dreams and that’s something to be excited about.
What’s next for you?
More of the same. More of something better. Travel, laughter, lots of carbs, solid relationships and high grossing businesses.
My favourite podcast is... Bobo and Flex
If I was an animal I’d be... a Grizzly Bear
My celebrity crush is… Rihanna
If I was a shoe, I’d be... a platform satin blue mule
My ultimate dinner party guest is... Rihanna
My last meal would be... A bun-less chicken burger with chips and mushroom sauce from Hurricane’s Bar and Grill
Right now I’m listening to... The Business of Hype
I can’t live without… lip balm
My favourite person is… me
My ultimate holiday destination… Ghana
I’m happiest when… I’m speaking about things I’m passionate about
I’d spend my last $500 on... My rent and UberEats
My most controversial opinion is… that it’s ok to ghost